Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. —Ephesians 6:4.
It seems that many mothers have an inside track with their children because of the bonding that occurs in a child’s earliest days and weeks of life with her, both in the womb as they hear her voice and feel her comfort and after delivery as she nurses and suckles her child. So, I find it interesting that God commands fathers to be about the work of spiritual nurture with their children, yet they are to do it without exasperating the child with overly harsh discipline. I don’t believe Paul means to exclude mothers, but he emphasizes the importance of a strong, gentle guiding hand from a man who is not overly harsh but still has expectations. No, I think Paul assumes most moms will do their part in training and instructing children. However, the father’s influence and intentional training of each child are also essential for the child to know the father’s love and see that both parents support the proper direction the child should take in behavior, faith, and life. Dads, we have the awesome opportunity to help our child know a father’s love so they can come to know the love of our Father in heaven.